Walking On In spite of Not Understanding Why It Had to Happen

Rain in Lower Saxony

A friend of mine, who had just lost his young wife to a ghastly motor accident, said to me that it would be much easier to go on if he could have an actual face to face conversation with God. For if God could tell him why He let his wife die, trusting His wisdom wouldn’t be as hard as it is now. But just after a while brooding in silence, he admitted that in the end, he saw no other way than to keep trusting God and believing there’s a purpose for everything.

Considering a lot of things, it was only natural for him to want to understand so desperately why such a thing should happen. For one, his relationship with God should have counted for something. In that relationship, he had put much confidence in the love and power of his Creator. For even as the man of the home, he had dutifully prayed for the safety of his family without ceasing, committing them to God’s capable hands. Never did he doubt for once the ableness of his God, whose immensity and greatness is forever incalculable and unmatched. Yes, yes “shit happens” but surely not to a man who knows God like that.

Needless to say, there was hardly anything I could have said to console such a loss. I offered prayers afterward, but that was pretty much all I could do. For what could I have said? I couldn’t have even managed empathy even if I tried for I knew nothing of what he was going through. So rather than talk I just listened to the widower pour out his heart. And in all he said, his declaration of determined trust in God left the most indelible impression on me. You could say, I ended up being the one ministered to and encouraged.

You know life is what it is. We are going to have some ups and some downs, not because we are cursed but because that’s just how it is. And in an attempt to give a reason, we could say, for us, as God’s own, trials are necessary for our process and purposes, as deemed and gauged by the Will and Wisdom of God. And to understand fully the “Whys” and the depth of God’s wisdom and ways, we may all have to wait until we see God face to face in heaven, just like Paul intimated in 1 Corinthians 13:9-10.

However, as we wait for that total comprehension, we must, for ourselves, resolve to hold on to the principles of our faith, especially in the face of emotions and feelings to the contrary.  We must keep keeping faith, no matter what, knowing there is always a promise behind the particular principle of trusting God with all of our hearts.

What my friend went through might be to some degree peculiar to him and a few, but as we meet with our own individual life trials and challenges, may there be grace sufficient enough to still trust in the One who loves us so much He gave up His life for us. Remember, in the words of Louis Zamperini, “To persevere, I think, is important for everybody. Don’t give up, don’t give in. There’s always an answer to everything.”


About Photo: Saved from Time Magazine – A woman with an umbrella crosses a street in Hanover, Germany. This photo was taken through the rain-drenched window of a car. From CNN “The Week in 34 Photos.” 


4 thoughts on “Walking On In spite of Not Understanding Why It Had to Happen”

  1. You’ve said it all Samuel, One of the purposes of trials is to help us come to know Christ, understand His teachings in our minds, feel them in our hearts, and live them in our lives. When we turn to Christ, we will not only find the comfort we seek, but in so doing we will also gain an increased testimony of the reality of the Savior and His Atonement, which can heal all suffering.

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    1. So true…somewhere in Proverbs it is written that “knoweledge of the Holy One gives understanding.” I believe the deeper we choose to respond to all God is doing and go deeper in our relationship with Him, all the comfort, consolation,blessings will come to us in way that we see what marvelous thing God’s up to in our lives. Thanks for sharing your thoughts Tora.


  2. I believe life is what it is and nothing takes God by surprise… but my prayer always is for God not to allow us to face any situation that will overwhelm our faith so much that we stop trusting in Him. Tinuke


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