Love, Relationships

Love Is Sufficient and Powerful, But The Two Must Agree

 

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Inspired by the popular and ongoing argument over whether Love is enough or just bullshit, I thought it apt to say a few things in defense of Love.

And for the sake of understanding, it is important to note my assertions are based on the meaning of Love having more to do with intentionality, choice, and maturity than it has to do with our feelings and whatever we may want when we say “I love you”.

So, to the Crux of the matter…

Granted, loving as we should (sacrificially and purposefully) does not necessarily guarantee a successful blissful romantic relationship all by itself.

Regardless of how lofty the intentions to make the other person happy, it must often require the agreement of both parties to make it work. A matter of choice, so to speak, either to accept or spurn the Love shared.

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Love, Relationships

A Rather Extreme Suggestion On How To Deal With A Cheating Partner

“This is what is hardest: to close the open hand because one loves.”
– Friedrich Nietzsche

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I have a rather extreme suggestion to make on how to respond to a cheating partner who seeks forgiveness. I believe my proposal ideal for romantic commitments in which exclusivity is understood and agreed upon. But since our relationships are different from one another just as we are different, applicability may differ.

But before I state my seemingly outrageous recommendation, I would like you to know upfront that my source of inspiration is actually Love, not a sense of retribution, although the love I speak of here is of a less favored aspect and hue.

So, let’s begin.

Contrary to the assumed belief that love is particularly emotional and mushy and can be nothing else, there is a side of love that is resolute and principled. It is, I believe, what some folks mean when they use the term “tough love”.

Though largely used in the context of parenting, I believe this facet of love should be well extended to relationships between grown-ups devoted to building a meaningful connection. This is important because we often let our feelings run wild, in a way that we spoil one another and make allowances that potentially harm rather than make stronger our relationships.

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Character, Musings, Relationships, Uncategorized

Crazy In Love With Scandal…

Just the other day, my dear friend Iris, opened up to me about why she couldn’t bear watching certain TV shows for their flagrant display of adultery.

Regardless of how popular they’d become, Scandal and Power seemed topmost on her list considering how many times she picked on those two.

She was resolutely unyielding in accepting the idea that it is now “modern” to break your marriage vows, especially when it makes you happier – giving you a chance at a truer and more exhilarating relationship with somebody else, who’s supposedly better and more compatible than your once precious and unequaled significant other.

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