Quite early in my life, I had the good fortune of knowing enough to value Love above all other things. It has always been my opinion that true fulfillment lies primarily in our relationships, not in our jobs or careers or earthly accomplishments. Why, because life without loving others, has no lasting significance whatsoever.
So in that mindset, I had continually committed myself to the business of learning all that may aid me in becoming more efficient and successful in loving people. Particularly, I had pursued the vision of a glorious love life. With the help of scriptures, I had come to understand that selfless love was the key to having a piece of heaven on earth, romantically.
THE PLAN: Unearthing together the lessons and truths that could make our lives increasingly fulfilling and eternally relevant…
First, before I say anything, I’d like to say, for the benefit of my subscribed “followers”, this is no SPAM, but a mild transformation from what you once knew as “SamuelIbrahim.Com” to now, “AyeOle.Com”.
So please do not unfollow, block or do anything that may jeopardize everything we’ve built together…[grin*] I know, that sounds corny. I am just trying to say you are important and that our connection in the blogosphere is appreciated. That’s all.
About the blog’s new title.
Aye Ole(meaning “life is not hard” in Yoruba”) represents a sentiment I have held since my early days in the university. To utter the words, do not, in any way, disregard the hardship and difficulties we all face in life.
It is more of a perspective and outlook on life. It is about how you choose to take on the challenges that come without losing your peace of mind. And backing such view and values is the power and quality of our knowledge which, I believe, we must continually develop for the chance at living well and full.
I believe that life, with all its various aspects, could be much more enjoyable and meaningful when we realize the Aye Ole’s, so to speak. And it is because we “know” better and we do better. This is what this blog is about.
Through real human stories and relevant articles, it is my hope that we could together unearth the lessons that could make our lives increasingly fulfilling.
SamuelIbrahim.Com was a phase of searching and multiple turns and prodding for how to go. AyeOle.com is the way I have chosen to go in my contribution to the community of men and women keen on making our sojourn here meaningful, hopefully with eternal implications.
Here is to a new chapter. Let’s have fun making sense of things that matter.
Inspired by the popular and ongoing argument over whether Love is enough or just bullshit, I thought it apt to say a few things in defense of Love.
And for the sake of understanding it is important to note my assertions are based on the meaning of Love having more to do with intentionality, choice and maturity than it has to do with our feelings and whatever we may want when we say “I love you”.
So, to the Crux of the matter…
Granted, loving as we should (sacrificially and purposefully) does not necessary guarantee a successful blisful romantic relationship all by itself.
Regardless of how lofty the intentions to make the other person happy, it must often require the agreement of both parties to make it work. A matter of choice, so to speak, either to accept or spurn the Love shared.
Most times, there is no way of understanding why bad things happen, and that hurts.
I get it if a driver were to loose control due to excess alcohol levels. Or if a group of armed robbers got themselves killed in a shoot out with the police. But for a good-natured young lady to intentionally kill her self by drinking a bottle of SNIPER DDVP insecticide is incomprehensible.
Though I didn’t know her very well, I always noticed Haleema* whenever I visited the market for my cake supplies. The stall in which she sold plastic items for parties and home-use was just next to the cake shop. However, even if her spot had been far down the line, her beauty and warmth would have still been conspicuous.
Iris’s irritation wasn’t so much caused by the actual act of infidelity as much as it was by the fact that these reasons for adultery that once only made sense to the culprits in the stories are now finding empathy and understanding with the rest of society, who are watching and being entertained.
Just the other day, my dear friend Iris, opened up to me about why she couldn’t bear watching certain TV shows for their flagrant display of adultery. Now, regardless of how popular they’d become, Scandaland Powerseemed topmost on her list considering how many times she picked on those two.
She was resolutely unyielding in accepting the idea that it is now “modern” to break your marriage vows, especially when it makes you happier – giving you a chance at a truer and more exhilarating relationship with somebody else, who’s supposedly better and more compatible than your once precious and unequaled significant other.